I have been a stranger in a strange land.
Exodus 2:22, King James Version
Age seldom arrives smoothly or quickly. It’s more often a succession of jerks.
As Legacy Gardens Business Office Director (BOD), I find I have the unique opportunity to travel to another Emeritus community to train their new BOD. I am headed to Fox River, in Appleton, Wisconsin. It’s about two hours northeast of Madison, where I am located. I am to go for two days for two successive weeks. I am excited about seeing another community up close and nervous because I want to represent my own in the best possible light.
It occurs to me as I drive that I can also look at this trip from the perspective of a resident moving into a new community. I decide to blog for the two weeks I am on the road and at Fox River and see what occurs. Little do I know….
Age does not matter unless you are a cheese.
The age of a woman doesn’t matter. The best tunes are played on the oldest fiddles.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
In the December 2012/January 2013 issue of More magazine, (their byline is “For Women of Style and Substance”) clinical psychologist and author Dr. Judith Sills “dishes” on how to stay young (and sexy!) and why she never uses the term “age appropriate.” She makes a distinction between youth and being young. According to Dr. Sills, “Youth is a life era, from birth to thirty-something. Being young is an attitude. It is something you should work on and hang onto until they carry you out of the nursing home.”
Dr. Sills so dislikes the term “age appropriate” because she believes “it limits and confines women. Whether you are 35 or 75, there are certain expectations of what your sex life should be like, what your clothes should be like, and where you should be professionally. The expectation is that the older you get, the less comfortable you’ll be on your own…the more fearful you’ll be. The expectations are all negative. The phrase “age appropriate” never envisions older people having fun.”